Legend Of The Love Seeker — a series.
Men will stain your white.
They have stained mine so many times but na this Afolabi own pain me pass.
I met Afolabi on Instagram in 2019. I was scrolling through a friend’s profile looking for God knows what and stumbled on his comment so, like every other weirdo (or normal person), I decided to click on his profile and waooowwww…
He’s dark, handsome, and looked intelligent and before you knew it, I started to like all his photos because why not?
Ah! Bobo yen hanzzz and me, I love good things so he was definitely a ten out of ten.
Before long, I got a notification that he had commented on my photo saying “You have a beautiful smile”.
*cue the aggressive blushing*
Since I liked his energy, I decided to slide into his DM. I did not want to act like a thirsty horse so I just sent him a simple and sweet message saying “Hi, I wasn’t sure if I should message but here I am” or something along the lines of that sha.
He responded sweetly and that was the beginning of a beautiful friendship that I hoped would turn out to be something more. He was sweet and very thoughtful. Lunch dates, cute gifts, and early morning and goodnight messages were a staple for him.
He was also supportive. I had a health issue at the time and had to go to the hospital often. He would accompany me to my doctor’s appointments, and on days when he couldn’t he would call to check in regularly pray with me or send food with cute little cards with handwritten messages.
I know you’re probably wondering “He’s perfect, so how did he stain your white?”
Don’t worry, I’m getting there.
Things were going sweetly, I was even entertaining the idea of a relationship with this man but there were some moments. He was always posting his cousin, they even did a birthday shoot. It was shady but me, being me, decided to just brush it off as nothing. “We’ve all had shady moments,” I told myself “I’m sure it’s fine and I’m just overthinking stuff as usual”
It wasn’t fine and it all blew up in my face.
It happened on the weekend I was supposed to go to his house. Two days before my visit, he started to act weird and unexcited. In my mind, I was like baby mi kilonshele? Talk to the bone of your bone nauuu. He finally opened up and told me he had something to tell me. I was foolishly thinking he was going to ask me to be his girlfriend until,
He dropped the bomb.
And yes, you guessed right — the “cousin” is his fiancee.
And that’s when it all started to make sense. The hushed phone calls, the “cousin” he was always posting. The photoshoot of them I saw on his Instagram. Everything started to click.
I felt like a clown. God.
How could I have been so delusional?
I confronted him about it and he tried to manipulate my feelings by saying he had never loved someone like me before in his life, I brought out the boy in him. I’ve never made him feel more alive bla bla bla.
Pele o, Red Bull.
I sha told him I was ending our situationship and I’m cutting off all contact with him. He didn’t listen of course and it took a lot of willpower to not answer his calls or texts. He kept at it for a few more days then he stopped.
Anywayyy, long story short..
He got married to his supposed “cousin” the next month and while it hurt me, I was happy that I didn’t let it get too far. It hurt like crazy but we move nonetheless.
Lessons have been learnt soooo, it’s on to the next. I must find this love by force.
My name is Ekene and this is my Legend Of The Love Seeker Story.
What’s yours?
